This is going to be a relatively personal post, since this is something I am definitely struggling with at the moment. I am going to discuss what’s bothering me and how I’m trying to deal with it in a simple and stress-free way.
I’ll be honest, I spend a lot of time thinking about the future. Not in the “wonder what I can do at the weekend?” but more in the lines of “By the time we retire, I want to have XYZ in place.” I spent quite a bit of time working out strategies for how we’re going to accomplish both our short term and long term aims. I spend quite a bit of time thinking about whether what I’m doing now is enough and whether we’re doing the right thing. The answer is, I think so?
But, is worrying about the future making us miss the present?
I fear it might be. I worry that actually, because I’m so consistently thinking about the future, I am kind of wishing my life away. Which is stupid! We only have one life after all, and I shouldn’t be wishing it away. There are so many things I want to achieve and experience that I often forget that everyday opens more doors of opportunity, and I shouldn’t dismiss them because they are the here and now.
Do you think that people who have more interest in finance, whether that’s in a positive or negative way, are often looking more to the future than to the present? I look forward to the month end, when I re-balance the books and look at how we’re progressing in regards to our goals. If you’re in debt, then you’re wishing your life away so that your debt free date comes and you are free from the trappings of debt.
I remember when we set the date for our wedding, counting down the days until the big day. I could not wait until our wedding day, and could have quite happily forgone the two years beforehand so that it could be the day itself. I remember when it got to 100 days away, then 50 days, then the week before. I was constantly looking to the future, so the next stage of life.
Are we continuously looking forward to the next stage of life without appreciating what we’ve got? I know I am guilty of this, some days more than others. At the moment, I am finding work slightly more stressful than normal and also much more pressured that it has been, and I find myself living for the weekends. Now, I know that a lot of people who work (obviously) prefer the weekends. Who wouldn’t, with the freedom they bring? But, I am literally wishing my life away. It is like I don’t know how to appreciate the present, when there is something to look forward to in the future. The future is this part of life you can daydream about; it can be as positive and as exciting as you make it.
Part of the reason why, in my Weekend Edition posts, I try and find 5 things I’ve either enjoyed or been grateful for in the past week, is so that I see good and exciting things in the present. It makes me think about what has happened in the past week that I should appreciate; after all, I live a pretty good life and should be grateful for that. I have a job that I enjoy (most of the time) and I can never say I’m bored during the day. I need to enjoy the present, as well as planning for the future. Because, after all, who really knows what’s going to happen tomorrow?
Do you agree? Have you any tips for how to make sure I enjoy the monotony of everyday life?